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Dec. 28th, 2005 08:37 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
changeyourstars8Okay, I'm about to get hostile, and the entry does have to do with religion, so anyone who doesn't want to read that, skip. Thanks. :-)
Disclaimer over...
So I'm unpacking stuff, and when I'm going through stuff that Chris had in his side of the desk I find a little church pamphlet titled "How Can I Know Who to Marry?" Being curious, I decided to flip through it.
When, oh when, am I going to learn?
One of the first things they go through is this--
"Choose a Believer
Oil and water do not mix. A mouse and a boa constrictor would not make the best of friends. A person with a paralyzing fear of heights would not be a wise choice as a climbing partner to scale the slopes of Mount Everest. ... And a follower of Christ would not make a good marriage match with a nonbeliever. Nothing should be more important to you or to the person you marry than your spiritual well-being. Plenty can go wrong if you don't marry someone who's your spiritual equal. If you could talk to Moses or to King Solomon, they could tell you of the dangers to both the family and to the community of believers. ... A believer who marries an unbeliever may be facing a lifetime of spiritual unrest in the marriage and a battle for the spiritual well-being of their children."
Now, fortunately I know that Chris has not cleaned this desk drawer in years, and the guy is a packrat who saves everything anybody sends to him, and we had a discussion about this very issue before we got married and I know that he loves me despite my heathen ways, so no problems between us on that count.
But I had and unfortunately still have insecurities about marrying someone of a different faith precisely because of this stupid crap. 'Oh, you don't believe the exact same thing! You bad, bad person. You're just going to drag him down, you do know that, right? You're bad for his spiritual well-being, which is the most important thing in life!'
I just want to swat these people with a big piece of cardboard that has "I am not a 'danger' to my husband and family and future children just because I'm an agnostic" written on it.
I'm just grateful to whatever's up there that while my close family and friends believe differently than I do, that's not a huge issue to them and they love me anyway.
I'd say it's good for your 'spiritual well-being' to marry someone who loves, understands, and supports you, who's willing to compromise, and who won't drop you like a hot potato because you've answered the incredibly complicated issue of religion in a different way than they have, but hey, what do I know. I'm a "today's Canaanite".
Disclaimer over...
So I'm unpacking stuff, and when I'm going through stuff that Chris had in his side of the desk I find a little church pamphlet titled "How Can I Know Who to Marry?" Being curious, I decided to flip through it.
When, oh when, am I going to learn?
One of the first things they go through is this--
"Choose a Believer
Oil and water do not mix. A mouse and a boa constrictor would not make the best of friends. A person with a paralyzing fear of heights would not be a wise choice as a climbing partner to scale the slopes of Mount Everest. ... And a follower of Christ would not make a good marriage match with a nonbeliever. Nothing should be more important to you or to the person you marry than your spiritual well-being. Plenty can go wrong if you don't marry someone who's your spiritual equal. If you could talk to Moses or to King Solomon, they could tell you of the dangers to both the family and to the community of believers. ... A believer who marries an unbeliever may be facing a lifetime of spiritual unrest in the marriage and a battle for the spiritual well-being of their children."
Now, fortunately I know that Chris has not cleaned this desk drawer in years, and the guy is a packrat who saves everything anybody sends to him, and we had a discussion about this very issue before we got married and I know that he loves me despite my heathen ways, so no problems between us on that count.
But I had and unfortunately still have insecurities about marrying someone of a different faith precisely because of this stupid crap. 'Oh, you don't believe the exact same thing! You bad, bad person. You're just going to drag him down, you do know that, right? You're bad for his spiritual well-being, which is the most important thing in life!'
I just want to swat these people with a big piece of cardboard that has "I am not a 'danger' to my husband and family and future children just because I'm an agnostic" written on it.
I'm just grateful to whatever's up there that while my close family and friends believe differently than I do, that's not a huge issue to them and they love me anyway.
I'd say it's good for your 'spiritual well-being' to marry someone who loves, understands, and supports you, who's willing to compromise, and who won't drop you like a hot potato because you've answered the incredibly complicated issue of religion in a different way than they have, but hey, what do I know. I'm a "today's Canaanite".
