Rihanna

[changeyourstars8]

ficangel has one of the best posts I've seen about the whole mess and the slew of "OMG she soooo had it coming!!" bullshit that's sprung up around it.

It doesn't matter if you do your very damnedest to not be her, to be quiet, to be good, to not make a fuss, to be thin, to be chaste, to be a good mother, to keep a clean house, to not break a single one of the eggshells that you walk on every single day. It doesn't matter; it's not about you. If he's going to hit you (if he's already hit you), he's going to do it no matter what you do.

Most of you on my flist have been around long enough to know my general opinion on matters such as this. For those of you who are new--

I do not tolerate victim-blaming. EVER. If you read up on this story or others like it and your first instinct is to scoff about how she must've provoked him and he never would've done it if she hadn't been a slut/too mouthy/such a bitch; if your response is to say, "Well, I'm not trying to blame the victim, but" or if you think, "Well, she must be exaggerating"; if you believe Team Chris icons are cute and shirts saying "Rihanna deserved it" are funny . . . then kindly remove yourself from my flist. Thank you. ((I sincerely hope this didn't need to be said, but once in a while people surprise me.))

Comments

[ficangel.livejournal.com]

Thanks for the link. And I should clarify (probably in the post as well) that the member of my flist was linking to the shirt to show how horrifying it was, not because she agreed.

[particle-person.livejournal.com]

Valentined!

[abydosangel.livejournal.com]

I always hate to be the one to point this out - but you *know* that there would be an even louder outcry if it was [insert white, adorable girl here].

Part of the problem is the still overwhelmingly silent, but present idea that WoC either "ask" for bad treatment, or have earned it, which is as old as slavery/Jim Crow.

There are a lot of issues surrounding this, which is why I'm not really up to discussing it with whites right now, but this (http://exittheapple.com/applesauce/2006/07/we-still-wear-the-mask-william-jelani-cobb/)says a lot of what I'm thinking.